Why You Should Lower Your Expectations

Heya playas, have you ever been in a situation where you and your friends are starving so you decide to order a box of pizza? And as soon as that pizza arrives you open up that box and just stare at it because you don't want to be that *** that takes the first slice. Why is that? Why do people hesitate to make a decision for themselves when they're in a group? So eventually one of you grabs the slice and immediately after everyone reaches for that second one. And as soon as that happens it's like this thought pops into people's heads that's like, oh my god life is precious. I need to eat to survive! And I think for the most part, people have this fear of being impolite. Think about it, how many times have you forced yourself to hang out with someone you don't want to hang out with? Or bought a gift for someone's birthday when you don't even care about them? Oh here's the big one, you went along with something just because if you spoke out the group would tell you no. Peer pressure. So what is it, why do we expect so much from others? Why do we think they're going to give us all the knowledge that we need to teach us what we know? Is it not possible for these people to make mistakes and that we are not capable of learning things on our own? Well no one is going to own up to it and say yes that's me but my point is that we expect others to make all the hard decisions in life for us just so that we don't have to deal with them. Good advice is priceless, I will not doubt that for a second but what I think is happening is that we're missing out on the fullness of life because we expect others to baby us. Hold on a second, we're talking about the first god damn slice in the box of pizza. That decision is not that detrimental to my life. Maybe but, what I've learned is that the moment you start putting your expectations in the hands of others you're bound to lose. And the reason I saw that is because there are so many factors influencing their lives that you don't even know about. You have practically no control over what they decide. Let your decisions in your life be made by you and their decisions in their life be made by them. That means if you're put in a situation where you have to decide between doing what you want to do and what you don't want to do, I'd say go with your gut which will probably lead you to what you want to do. People are selfish, it's true. They're gonna do what they want to do, now what you want to do. So I say if your decision doesn't work with mine, have a good day. Counter argument. Won't that make you kinda come off looking like a *** though? If your friends are trying to decide where to go out one night and one of your friends is complaining that they don't want to go there isn't it kind of an *** move to say deuces and send them off on their way? I mean according to what I said earlier, I'm coming off like I think I'm better than everyone. Like I'm egotistical or self centered. If one of my friends comes to me with a problem should I shoo them away because I've given them the same advice over and over and over and I choose not to repeat myself a million times? Come to think of it, being enlightened means to pull yourself away from all the drama and the problems in this world. So does being enlightened mean you become an ***? Even such let's look at the law of attraction. The whole purpose is to play these *** games back and forth with the person which creates tension which creates fun. If I'm enlightened, does that mean I hold no expectations for others? What I say is what it is and that's that? Seems kind of boring. Hold on a second are we debunking this entire system of being in control of your reality as being something bad? Doesn't that go against every Josh Speaks episode ever? No, no, no, no, no, I got this. I got this. Back to the pizza analogy. You see it's when you get to the last slice of pizza that your character truly shows. I'm a firm believer of being that person, the one who grabs the last slice but I think you should put it up on a plate and give yourself the option as to whether or not you want to hand it out. We're human, it happens. Sometimes people just don't deliver on our expectations and guess what, we gotta deal with it. Always make sure your control over your own decisions outweighs your expectations of others. Like this video if you want to be a more take action kind of person. Leave a comment letting me know, does putting yourself before others make you a jerk? And subscribe to the channel because we're rolling out on these deep philosophical questions. As always guys, love and peace. Oh sure yea, no problem. No, no, no you sit shotgun. Yea yea no problem you take the bed, I'll take the couch. Yes I am fully aware that there are zombies outside and only one spot left in the bunker. I'm a scientist so I think, you know what, you're the yo yo expert you should go. If a zombie invasion did occur, put yourself first.