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wrapped in a conundrum because the men still haven’t figured them out. If dating Swedish men was confusing enough, then dating Swedish women must be more so. I’m a girl, an American-Indian girl, and therefore am not Swedish. But I have a few Swedish girlfriends and they all have opinions of their fellow male counterparts. Some comments are downright ballsy. Swedish guys have done a good job of losing their balls over the years, part thanks to feminism, part thanks to super tight jeans that served as self castrating devices. First off, if you are man, Swedish, French, American, British, you have to learn how to smooch and *** with those hot Swedish women. A lot of ***, it helps. Second, it seems that foreign men in Sweden have an advantage over the Swedish men. Be happy and use it wisely. Here’s what Swedish women think of Swedish men: Kinda shy – the men just watch you and wait forever before they will come speak to you. Difficult to figure out Snåla – a bit greedy and stingy, swedish men don’t invite girls out much Too dependent on alcohol – the boys drink to get drunk, and it’s very gross. If swedish men learned to drink for pleasure and not got wasted, it would be easier to have a conversation and think they are sexy. In Southern Europe, people drink wine, beer, alcohol with class. Up in Scandinavia, people drink like the end of the world is coming. Plus, drinking a glass of wine on a Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday is akin to alcoholism, yet it’s okay to get wasted drunk from Thursday to Saturday. Where’s the moderation? No alcohol = no conversation, the Swedish boys have no ability to communicate without the clutch of alcohol Too emotionally distant and far away What Swedish women LIKE/ WANT Swedish men to do: Be courteous – maybe open doors, pull out chairs, a little bit of chivalry is good If you invite someone for dinner, then you could at least pay for it! Buy a gift to show your affection; it’s nice to receive presents Have some balls and guts and speak to me! “Hi, what’s up” does not count. We want to talk about real stuff, not just the weather. Stop counting every krona spent at a meal, it’s embarrassing to decide who got what drink, what side dish, etc. Can’t we just split the bill like normal people? Be a man and stand up for what you want After reading all these comments you must think, “damn, how do Swedish men and women mate and have lots of babies?” I wonder that too, and I’ll put the blame on the dark swedish winter and the bright swedish summer. You also must think that Swedish women hate their fellow men. It’s part true, more Swedish women are interested in foreign men than they are in other Swedes. Boredom, lack of balls, and overall disappointment are contributing factors. What can you learn from this? Like I said, if you are male and not Swedish, you already have a leading position. If you have the ability to speak to girls without being a *** and make good conversation, again, major brownie posts. And finally, if you have some gentlemanly qualities, the beautiful blond Swedish girls will be all over you. As my friend put it: Swedish blond bombshells may be tough and viking-like on the outside, but they are still soft, delicate women on the inside. A Swedish woman deserves to be treated as such. PS - I’m well aware that this post constitutes a generalization. Please don’t comment that I’m stereotyping and stereotyping sucks, wah wah wah. Everyone generalizes; get over it. Your comment will not be approved. Please however comment on something more constructive. Perhaps why Swedish women have a reputation of being blond/beautiful or why the negative reputation of being “***.” Or your experience dating a Swedish girl or being a Swedish girl and dating. My international friends from university asked me today to explain how dating works in Sweden. Apparently they have trouble getting into the rules of the Swedish dating game. One of the most common places to find a partner is at a nightclub (or a mutual friend’s party), which may seem pretty obvious. However, the way to meet someone there is more subtle. It’s not as easy as going up to someone and offer them a drink or ask them to dance. Many people see this as too forward and will get defensive if they are approached in this way. So how do people approach one another when they go out? If you want to meet someone, you’d better make your way to the dance floor. Many people regard those who only hang out in the bar as suspicious*. The first step is eye contact. If you catch somebody’s eye, and the two of you look at each other for more than a second, then you’re good to start dancing with each other (at this point, you don’t even have to ask about the dance, you both know it’s coming). From the moment the two of you start dancing, the rules aren’t as strict as before. Depending on your moves and all-around charm, you might just share that one dance, or you might even spend the night together. Either way, the chances are good that you’ll exchange phone numbers, which is crucial for the next step. Assuming that things went well at the club, sometime in the next few days one of you (it might just as well be the girl as the boy) will text the other and ask them out for a fika, which means a daytime meeting at a café for a coffee. Again, you have to be careful not to seem pushy by asking the person out for a drink or dinner. It’s too soon for that at the “fika stage”. I should note that while this fika obviously is a date of sorts, you never call it that. A fika is by definition not a date. Instead, both parties pretend that they’ve forgotten about their brief romance at the club and keep things rather platonic at the non-date fika. The fact that both of you are aware that you’re on a date while simultaneously pretending that it’s not a date can make things quite awkward, but that’s how it’s done. To keep the conversation non-datish, the subjects you talk about are usually very neutral ones such as the housing market, Stockholm versus Gothenburg, how great your iPhones are, or how much the public transportation system irritates you (actually, the Swedish public transportation system is among the best ones in the world). Girls, don’t read anything into it if the guy doesn’t pay, you’re expected to split the bill in the name of equality. If you want to ask out someone that you already know, from work for example, you usually skip the night out and go directly to the fika. This is because the concept of a date almost doesn’t exist in Sweden. If you would have asked someone you know to go out for drinks, that would have been very difficult to say that it’s not a date, which is why fika is a better solution. If the fika goes well, you’ll likely start texting each other a couple of times a day. I might add that texting is the preferred channel of communication with Swedish guys. It’s important to keep track of whether he ends his text messages with kram, which means “hug”, or ***, meaning ”kiss”. Eventually you’ll have another date, usually at the cinema, and if that goes well too, you’ll have what constitutes a relationship. Although it might still be a bit early to change your Facebook status. If you’re dating a Swedish guy you should be aware that he probably won’t try to woo you in the classical ways. Try not to get offended or assume that he’s not into you if he doesn’t bring you flowers, if he doesn’t hold the door up for you, if he doesn’t pay for the movie or if he doesn’t offer to walk you home. Instead, he will always respect you and he will never assume that you are weak or bad at something just because you’re a girl. He’d never assume that you won’t be able to get over that puddle of water without his help. Of course, this gives a generalized picture, and I’ve heard of people meeting each other in other ways (Hannes and I have a different story, I’ll tell you some other time). But from my experience, this is one of the most common scenarios. When I lived in Italy, I often got approached by different men who wanted to ask me out. All kinds of people, too – waiters, policemen, the guards at the Vatican Museums, shop keepers. This dating culture differs a lot from Sweden’s, and it just goes to show that if you want to make it in the dating game in unknown territory, you’d do well to find out which rules apply there first. *A couple of years ago there was a hit hip-hop song that played on this. The chorus goes: Alla som inte dansar är våldtäktsmän, which translates into: ”Everyone who doesn’t dance is a ***”