Mom Dad I'm Gay - Coming out tips

(door knocking and opening) Tip number 1 and I think this is one of the most important ones that you can do is have support. So when you're coming out. Whether its your mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, friends, whoever you're coming out to. It's really important you have some back up support. Just so that you know you're not alone in the process because coming out to people can be very scary. So its important that you have someone you can talk to about it. So, it could be your friend. It could be... maybe you have someone that you already are in love with, or have a crush on. I don't know, something like... I already had um I guess you'd say a girlfriend. Jenna and I were already dating when I came out. So, it's important that you have somebody there that can kinda talk to you beforehand. Then it will kinda help prep you and then can talk to you after. You know once you've come out and you've said it. Sometimes there's a lot of feelings involved and you kinda might need to I guess debrief. So it's important to that you have somebody there to talk to. You might get really depressed depending if maybe you're coming out is really bad. You know the people don't accept it. Then you might feel really depressed and really and so you're gonna need someone to talk to about it. So have support. Tip number 2 it's important to have a private place to come out. You don't want to surprise somebody by coming out to them while you're sitting at Starbucks. You don't want to do it at you know the Christmas, you know dinner or Thanksgiving dinner or somebody's birthday party. You know just a major family Sunday dinner. You might not want to do it then. I think coming out it better to be an individual thing. So take whoever you're telling in private. Um in a place, might sound funny but that you know you're safe. Some people, like I said, will react very negatively towards you coming out so if you feel for any reason that when you... you know telling that person um that you're gay could be a very negative thing. They might hurt you, then I would do it in a place that you know is safe. Maybe that does have other people, only for that reason. But in general, um I would do it in a private setting, just so that you and the other person can have true and honest reactions and you don't have to worry about other people around you. Tip number 3 have you facts straight. So, um again it's really important that when you're telling someone that you're gay. That you're coming out, that you have those facts in your head. They might say "well you're just going through a phase" or " oh no that can't be..." you know "you're just being silly". So you need to say, "well you know I felt this way and "this is how I feel" you know " I've felt it for this long." Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah. You know kinda just show them um that you're true and honest. That this isn't some game. It's not you know, some exploratory phase that you're going through. That you really felt this way and you've thought about it and you're telling them because you're being true and honest. So make sure you have that knowledge in your head that you can give to them to make them understand better you know what you're talking about. Tip number 4 try and keep calm. Um I know this is probably a really hard one to do. I'm not saying you can't cry. I'm not saying you can't laugh. I'm not saying you can't do whatever. You know if coming out is a very positive thing for you you can hug. You can have tears of joy that they are accepting. If the person you're telling is really agaisnt that and they're very negative towards you. You might... you're gonna cry. You know, that's just a fact. But the one thing that I can say is try and keep your calm. Don't get upset. Don't get defensive and you know start insulting the other person. Just because they're not accepting what you're saying. You need to keep calm and just I think that that will help in some way show the person that you're being true and honest and you're not just rebelling agaisnt you know society. Or you're not rebelling in any sort of way. So, try your best to keep your calm. The last one that I have and this one is going to be really hard for some people is to have acceptance. Like I've mentioned in the other tips, some people are not gonna agree with your choice. Some people are against being gay. Some people are very strongly agaisnt people being gay and you might have those people within your friends, or your family. They might decide that they don't want to be your friend or they don't want to speak with you. Even if they are family memebers. That is just something you're going to have to accept. You cann't change people and how they think. That's how they think! That's the same way of you think how you are. You accept yourself as being gay and most people accept that. So, you're just going to have to accept that some people aren't going to like it and they might not like you anymore. That's why we go back to tip number one of having that support. You know you might lose someone along the way, but you never know who you're gonna gain because of this. So, again just make sure that you're understanding and you don't get... you keep your calm and you don't get out of control. Just accept wha they have to say and move on. Ok guys I hope that all of these tips have been helpful for you. That you can incorporate these. Um you know when you decide to come out to whomever you decide to come out to. If you feel you still need more support, you're more than welcome to leave comments, or private message me on YouTube. Um I am more than happy to talk with you. Again I'm not going to tell you my persoal coming out story. 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