Eft for Pain Relief - Eft for stress - Chasing the pain

So, Elaine, you were saying that you have a sore shoulder A pain in my shoulder, yes And it's going up your neck, did you say? And giving me a bit of a headache Right. So, first of all what we're going to do is just deal directly with it. Mmm hmm As often these pains are just brief and passing And you can get rid of it within a couple of rounds, so You're familiar with EFT, so I don't have to explain it all to you. So first of all we're going to do the setup on the karate chop, so Even though I have this pain in my shoulder Even though I have this pain in my shoulder I deeply and completely accept myself Even though I have this pain in my shoulder Even though I have this pain in my shoulder I deeply and completely accept myself I'm finding it hard to say I deeply Oooh! So let's have a think Do we need to talk about that first? No ... just go on. Even though you don't believe it Just say it. Ok? Ok. Even though I have this pain in my shoulder, I deeply and completely and completely accept myself. This pain in my shoulder This pain in my shoulder This pain in my shoulder This pain in my shoulder This pain in my shoulder This pain in my shoulder This pain in my shoulder This pain in my shoulder This pain in my shoulder Ok, so, I forgot to ask you about ... on a scale of 1-10 at the beginning, but we'll just say it was 10. If it was 10 to begin with, how's the pain now? Has it gone up, down It's gone down slightly Slightly? It's not as aggrivating Right. So ... ? I'm more aware of the headache aspect of it now that I am the pain, whereas before I was more aware of the pain, rather than the headache. OK, so it's moved It's moved, yes. I think we might be getting a different aspect and Let's think - it's worth us having a look at emotional aspects of it? So let's start with that ok? OK Even though, Even though, I have this headache, I deeply and completely accept myself Even though, Even though, I have this headache, I deeply and completely accept myself Even though, Even though, for whatever reason, for whatever reason, I have this headache, I have this headache, I deeply and completely accept myself, I deeply and completely accept myself, I forgive myself, I forgive myself, for any contribution I may have made to this, for any contribution I may have made to this, That's hitting the spot, isn't it? It is - interesting! I'm actually feeling emotions of sort of ... laughter is coming Yeah. Yeah. and I release. And I release. And I release. Anyone and everyone else involved. Anyone and everyone else involved. To their own path. To their own path. This headache. This headache. This headache. This headache. Moved from my shoulder Moved from my shoulder Into my head Into my head This headache This headache Which may have some emotional aspect Which may have some emotional aspects Or may not Or may not This headache This headache OK, so it moved down slightly before. So would you say that was an 8 from a 10? And now? And now it's gone down to ... probably about a 6. About a 6. Yeah. It's, it's definitely going. It's definitely different. Right. So. It's not as present. Ok. So it's moving back. And the bit that seemed to be hitting the spot was about forgiving ... emotional ... so, now it's appropriate to look at the emotional? When did your headaches start? Um, it was when I woke up this morning. Right. And It was connected to the shoulder. Yeah. The shoulder ... I get that really tight shoulders and then up into the head ... Right. And the shoulder is something that's a chronic thing? Yeah. It's something that happens when I get stressed. When you get stressed. OK. So what, recently, have you been stressing about? Lots of different things. Ok. So? When did you first notice it this time? I first noticed it about ... it was coming on yesterday evening. It was quite a busy day yesterday and I didn't really have a lot of time to just sit So I was doing lots of things I didn't really have time to kind of to sit and be. and normally I have a space in the day where I can do that. Yeah? I didn't yesterday. Oh, right, so ... I think that what it is is I haven't really had the time just to destress. Even though. Even though. I have this stressed shoulder. I have this stressed shoulder. Yes! Oh, Yes! I deeply and completely accept myself. I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though. Even though. I have this stressed shoulder. I have this stressed shoulder. I deeply and completely accept myself. I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though. Even though. For whatever reason. For whatever reason. I have this stressed shoulder. I have this stressed shoulder. I deeply and completely accept myself. I deeply and completely accept myself. And I'm willing to let go of this stress from my should. And I'm willing to let go of this stress from my shoulder. Mmm. Yeah. It's doing it for me! Stress in my shoulder. Stress in my shoulder. Woah! Stress in my shoulder. Stress in my shoulder. Stress in my shoulder. Stress in my shoulder. Stress in my shoulder. Stress in my shoulder. Stress in my shoulder. Stress in my shoulder. I like carrying stress in my shoulder. I like carrying stress in my shoulder. Stress in my shoulder. Stress in my shoulder. Ok. So now it was a 6 and now it's down to ? It's probably down to a 4. I definitely, definitely resonated with the fact that it was stress in the shoulder ... Right. As long as I - the shoulder went "ooh - this stress!" So it felt less stressed about the fact that it recognised it was stress, if that makes sense. Yeah, it does. It makes sense to me - it's ... When we have pain, often it's the body saying: "Excuse, me - you need to do something about this." Yeah. So. Sorry, as we're talking it's going down. It's moving down. OK. Do you want to take a deep breath? Oh. I can feel it in my neck. Is it your neck, then? I can feel it in my neck now. I ... I ... the shoulder is, is hardly there, but I'm really aware of it now ... my neck and my head All right. Even though. Even though. I'm so unwilling. I'm so unwilling. To let go of this stress. To let go of this stress. I'm going to put it in my neck. I'm going to put it in my neck. And give myself a pain in the neck. And give myself a pain in the neck. And have a headache about it. And have a headache about it. I deeply. And completely. And completely. Accept myself. Accept myself. Even though. Even though. I like having a pain in the neck. I like having a pain in the neck. And giving myself a headache. And giving myself a headache. With stress. With stress. I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though. Even though. My stress. My stress. Is such a part of me. Is such a part of me. That I want to carry it about with me all the time. That I want to carry it about with me all the time. I deeply and completely accept myself. I deeply and completely accept myself. And I'm willing to consider the possibility. And I'm willing to consider the possibility. That maybe I could let go of this stress. That maybe I could let go this stress. And still function. And still function. Stress headache. Stress headache. Letting go of stress. Letting go of stress. And still being able to function. And still being able to function. Letting go of stress. Letting go of stress. And still being able to get everything done that I need to. And still being able to get everything done that I need to. That's an interesting concept! Letting go of stress. Letting go of stress. And still being able. And still being able to function. Letting go of stress and being able to function. Letting go of stress and being able to function. How's that? It was a 4? When my shoulder was 4, I would have said that the neck and head was a six or a seven. That's really gone down a lot now. Down to a zero? Probably about a three. Yes. I can feel things changing. Right. I can definitely feel things changing. The whole ... the whole ... Introducing the concept of ... the idea ... oh, I can function without stress Yeah. It's a completely new concept! You know that stress is adrenalin, don't you? Yes. I feel that there's more to do on this, but I'm just going to concentrate on this one. Yes, yes. Because I have no feeling or desire to go off on a different path. I think that's a different thing. Yeah. And we've already had several aspects - shoulder and moving up to the neck and the head ... and ... so now I'm going to look at How's your neck? The neck is much better, the headache's much better And where I can feel it now is across my shoulders and I can really feel that as if it's just across the shoulders, ready to go. If that makes sense. This is ... this is there ... it feels so much softer, so much more willing to let go. Right. Ok. So. Even though. Even though. I'm still carrying this burden of stress. I'm still carrying this burden of stress. I deeply and completely accept myself. I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though. Even though. I carry this burden of stress. I carry this burden of stress. No, actually, that's wrong. Even though I burden myself with stress. Even though I burden myself with stress . I deeply. I deeply. And completely accept myself. Even though. Even though. I burden myself with stress It's gone up now. I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though. Even though. I burden myself with stress. With stress. I deeply and completely accept myself. I forgive myself. I forgive myself. For my old ways. For my old ways. Of carrying stress. Of carrying stress. In order to function. In order to function. And I'm willing to function. And I'm willing to function. Without the stress. Without the stress. This burden of stress. This burden of stress. This burden of stress. This burden of stress. This burden of stress. This burden of stress. This burden of stress This burden of stress. I'm willing to function. I'm willing to function. Without all this stress. Without all this stress. This burden of stress. This burden of stress. Willing to function without the burden of stress. What's that like? It's a lot better. It's a lot better. It really ... it's difficult to explain. It feels like there's a repatterning going on. I can just feel things moving. Not necessarily ... definitely across the shoulders But in my head as well. As well ... it's almost like there's a repatterning going on there. It's called "reframing" - you reframe ... you begin to see things differently ... maybe ... from a different angle so that you're used to doing things in a particular way ... and then you can kind of step back and look at that and say: "well, ok, that's fine for the past but now I seem to be able to ... I can see a way of doing ... of doing the same things, even better, actually, a lot of the time, without affecting my health" Ok. So how is it now? You were saying it was a three before and now ... ? Yeah. It's moved down to a 2, one and a half ... it's ... as we're speaking, you know, it's going down. Is it gone? No, I'd say it's about a one. OK. Even though. Even though. This little one in my back. This little one in my shoulders. I deeply and completely. I deeply and completely. Accept myself. Accept myself. Even though. Even though. I have this little one. I have this little one. In my shoulders. In my shoulders. I deeply and completely. I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though. Even though. I still have this little one in my shoulders. I still have this little one in my shoulders. I deeply and completely accept myself. I deeply and completely accept myself. I forgive myself. I forgive myself. For all the stress I've had. All the stress I've had. In my shoulders. In my shoulders before. And I'm willing to let it go. And I'm willing to let it go now. And do things differently. And do things differently. This little one in my shoulders. This one in my shoulders. This little one in my shoulders. Willing to let this go. Willing to let this go. This little one in my shoulders. This little one in my shoulders. This little one in my shoulders. This little one in my shoulders. Letting it go. Letting it go. This little one in my shoulders. This little one in my shoulders. This little one in my shoulders It's nearly gone - there was some sadness that came up though. It's a bit like ... probably losing an old friend. Not necessarily a good friend, but ... a sort of a ... old way of doing things. Yes ... so ... I'm actually now feeling some grief about that. Even though. Even though. I feel this sadness. And grief. And grief. I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though. Even though. I feel this sadness and grief. Over losing my old friend. Over losing my old friend. This pain in my shoulders. I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though. Even though. I feel some sadness and grief. I feel some sadness and grief. Over losing my friend - my old friend - pain. I deeply and completely accept myself. I forgive myself. For giving myself this pain in my neck. And I'm willing to do things differently. And I'm willing to do things differently. Simply because I know differently now. Simply because I know differently now. Sadness and grief. Sadness and grief. I'm judging myself. I'm judging myself. For doing it wrong. For doing it wrong. Giving myself pain. Giving myself pain. Giving myself grief. Giving myself grief. Through this pain in my shoulder. Through this pain in my shoulder. And now I know differently. And now I know differently. I can do things differently. I can do things differently. Without judging myself. Without judging myself. For doing things one way in the past. For doing things one way in the past. And a different way from now on. And a different way from now on. I can let go of my grief. I can let go of my grief. I can let go of this self judgement. I can let go of this self judgement. And I don't have to beat myself up about it. And I don't have to beat myself up about it. Any more. How's that? Much better. There's a feeling of freshness now. OK There's ... I don't have the sadness or the grief. This is completely a feeling of freshness. Like I've been mourning. Yeah. Sometimes, when we've been doing something one way and suddenly discover that actually we don't have to do it that way any more we can beat ourselves up about having done that in the past. But actually, we're all doing our best, all the time. And now that you've got a different way of doing things. That's not that you were doing it wrong before, you were just doing it differently before. It feels different now. I can't explain it. And I'll see how that goes. It really does feel different. Ok. So. Is there any other pain left. We started at a ... I dunno - we decided it was a 10 ... It was a 10, yes. There's literally what I can feel at the moment - there's just energy just ... relaxing now. OK. So I think we might be done now. That's clear. Good. Thank you. You're very welcome!