Be So Real!

First, I want to discuss about a movie I watched last night. A movie is called, "Legends of the Fall." Very interesting. It talks about the man who fought with a bear. It was talking about a man who fought with a giant bear. A Native American said, "When a man and a bear spilled blood together, they become one." The man and bear fought, the bear almost attacked the man. The man used a knife and had stabbed a bear's finger, a nail came off. The bear ran off. Years later, a man sat behind a rock above on a hill and was ready to shoot the bear he fought against before. He was ready to blast off his gun. He nearly shot the bear but he did not. Instead, he just let him go. That is because they have become one. It reminded me like my ex and me as we went through a lot together. We became one already. I really do feel we are one. Though, it is very unhealthy. He has to go, let him go. He has to be on his own. It is unhealthy for me, he is better off being with a woman who is pretty much like him. So, the movie was really good last night. I was watching/reading about Alexandra on Dr. Phil's Show. It was a real live show about her. Alexandra is gravely addicted to drugs. I like Dr. Phil since he is so real. So real as he discusses about issues from the past time to current time. He recorded through video camera. Dr. Phil's show is not all about successes. La La La. Nothing about that. It is about a real life, up and down. Some people succeed and some people fail. Dr. Phil is so real, so honest. He taped everything, so this girl is addicted. She used ***, ***, ***, and you name it, she used it. She had experienced with many drugs. She was as well as addicted to Rx medicines. It reminded me of my ex, he did show his Domestic Violence traits before he entered AA program. After the AA program, he showed the traits very clearly. He showed true colors of himself. He had a drinking problem and it helped him controlling his moods. I remembered that time, I had a hard time dealing with his drinking problem. It emotionally abused me. It is same thing with this girl, Alexandra. Her family was emotionally abused by her too. Her drugs/drinking problem caused varied abuses and had mentally/emotionally exhausted the family. The family went through hell. It was very exhausting. She gave the family a false hope and then went through hard times again, an unhealthy cycle. Her father was too soft and weak. Parents denied her severity on drug usages. It was like that with my ex, I do remember how emotionally/mentally exhausted I was with him. After his AA program, he was okay but can relapse. So his Domestic Violence traits are shown. DV traits still have emotionally and mentally exhausted me. Domestic Violence and drugs/drinking problems are similar when it comes to abusing their loved ones. So it is not worth your time and energy, but you still can help at first. Help as much as you can. Although, if one does not get better or improve, it is time for you to go and leave one to be. Do that after team work at first, not alone. Alone is impossible, you help with a team. That Dr. Phil is so real! It applies to a church. Sisters/brothers should work together as a team to support the addicted person or person with problems. Church is about peole, not just one to do the work. A church as a family needs to help. Some people from churches are too family oriented. Many are so groupie indivdualized. Some still think of themselves, just their families only. It is not right. Church is about a family of God. People on a cross to support others or ones. Some churches do need to change that and follow what God desires. All people in one church...together. They go to a heaven so it means we bear others' burdens and not to be self-centered. So I did the work with him alone, it was completely wrong. It should be within a church and/or many men to support me and him. However, how I retreat. Dr. Phil so real, church goers should be so real too. Christians or others in churches cannot expect to have their lives functionally perfectly. The reality is, there is no such thing of a perfect life. All are sinners and we all sin. Christians and worldly people are sinners ...equally. It is about readiness, if a Christian is ready to obey or to change then they will continue to learn and improve at God's timing, not his' or hers timing. He or she can ask for support. A brother/sister is being so real about his/her problems. He or she cannot hide his/her problems and pretend that everything is okay. La La La. Oh come on, you are not being so real. God requires you to be honest so you have to be real. Show your real problems/sins. We can get moving and get help together. Maybe, that is because you are afraid of others' judgments. However, God will measure his or her judgment level, he will take care of that. So why are you worried? The church goers need to be real like Dr. Phil. Show their sins, open our sins. Then we work on it to improve. I have to let my ex go so I can stop cussing back. My ex is not helping me so I have to let him learn a hard way himself. I choose this way to stop sinning. I have to let my ex go so I can stop cussing back. My ex is not helping me so I have to let him learn a hard way himself. I choose this way to stop sinning. I will discuss more later, I read this book called, "When God met A Girl." It is a very good book. Very good. At first I thought it seems silly that God met a girl? But it is about Jesus who is God Himself as He met varied women in Israel. Women was in the New Testament. Do you recall a story about a *** who was on the ground as men were ready to throw a stone at her? That is for cheating with a married husband. Jesus came in and asked men if they have sinned or never have sinned? He said if they have never sinned, they can throw stones at her. The men dropped the stones and left. Of course, that is because we are all sinners. It means we cannot judge or point at others like stoning at them. That is why I said previously, why are you worried of being judged? God will judge those. The book also talked about Mary. There are actually three Marys in the bible book but I finally understood them. Thanks to this book that explains me so clearly of those Marys. One of Mary was demonic possessed. She battled with demons inside her and fought against earthy people. She turned against many. She cussed at them. It was a daily thing. She constantly fought demonic behaviors/thinkings inside her mind and body. She eventually met Jesus. Her demons came out of her body and vanished. She finally had a good sleep after many years of turmoils in her own body. There was another Mary in the story. Mary was close with Jesus as Jesus taught her about God. A man was upset with Jesus' teachings, he ran to Pharisee. The man told the Jewish Pharisee about Jesus teaching Mary, a WOMAN about God. The Pharisee was wholly upset, they panicked. They feared that women will start to rebel against men or take men's power. They must not go over men.Women are forbidden to learn! NO! Women must be subssive, period so Pharisee and other Jewish leaders thought. They pointed to Jesus and accused Him. But the reality is, Jesus is the first one to honor women and open education to women. He welcomed women to learn and treated women and men equally. It touched my heart as I wept when I read that part. I watched the movie, so truly good. So does it mean men have to go above women? Not necessary; however, the men are still above and have the authoritive figure. That is ony if the man is healthy. The authoritive figure has to follow rules, God's law, etc. He is a Godly. He needs to treat his woman good as he loves Christ. However, if not treating woman well, women do not have to honor that man. That is why I cussed at my ex. A very good book. I try to think of other stories. Oh there is a woman who bleed a lot. She bleed daily all day. Jewish people freaked out. They avoided her. They thought she was a sinner because of her excessive blood flows. They could not do anything with her. If they touch her, they would be sinners like her. They could not help her at all.They avoided her. She suffered. She went off alone...went to a place where unwanted people lived. They were considered as sinners. They were dirty! If they touch her, they would be sinners like her. They could not help her at all.They avoided her. She suffered. She went off alone...went to a place where unwanted people lived. They were considered as sinners. They were dirty! The woman was helpless and lonely. She heard Jesus was coming in the town. She hurriedly ambled with her sister helping her. Her sister also disowned her. So did her dad. They had to abandon her and she was alone..her own sister and father disowned her! Her sister had to help her somehow this time. The bleeding woman approached Jesus. The bleeding woman touched Jesus' cloak and Jesus' energy came off a little and got weak for few minutes. The woman got healed. Jesus asked who touched his cloak? He excused the woman because of her faith and let her go. The book is champ! Each story touched my heart. A great movie, oh I mean good book! Movie is like a book and book is like a movie. So that person wants to learn and really wants to change then encourage that person to learn more and help him/her to get better. If that person is stubborn and refuses to learn or change then you cannot continue to help that person. You just let him/her go but first try to help the person with a team if one or two or three did not help. We cannot give up one too soon or quickly. We have to be so real about everything like Dr. Phil. Even God says we have to be true.