How to be Yourself around Your Crush

Do you know how to be yourself around your crush? Don’t work at being someone you aren’t in an effort to impress him. If he doesn’t like you for you, you need to find someone who is a better match. I think we’re a match. I just don’t know what to say or do, because I’m afraid I’ll say something stupid. Remember that a conversation is rarely remembered in the future, and serious flubs become funny moments shared between you. I keep thinking about what to say or do and can’t do anything at all because my mind’s racing over and over, playing it out along with the consequences. Think positive thoughts to shut down your internal critic. But that inner critic might be right. He might dump me for saying something really stupid. If this guy over-reacts and dumps you, know that you’ll find someone else as soon as you’re ready. What should I say? Avoid saying things that are offensive, rude or profane. You might offend him or make yourself look bad. Can I ask him out? He might say no. If he isn’t ready to go out with you one on one, plan a group activity. He’s much more likely to go to the movies with you and several other friends, than formally date you so soon. Then we have something to talk about. And I am running out of ideas after all the times I talk and text him. Don’t crowd the guy. While you want to get closer, don’t text him 50 times a day, call him every few hours and refuse to let him be by himself except in the bathroom or bed. Yeah, texting that you’re in the bathroom is awkward. This is all so confusing. Realize that he may be having the same confusing thoughts as you. He’s perfect. I want to be what he wants. Don’t push yourself to be perfect. He isn’t, either. So we’ll just muddle along and hope for the best? Realize you’ll make mistakes, and if this one bombs, apply what you’ve learned to the next relationship.