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the back down here with iraq John Graham liners relationship expert author of the book men are from Mars Women are from Venus is website Mars Venus dot com and crucial dot com just did a a fascinating new survey about what men find attractive and women John great welcome back to the program by the way i'm happy to be in a program on Valentine's Day helping everybody has a great Valentine's Day indeed and and thank you for that reminder because I shoulda I shoulda for said happy Valentine's Day to senator Sanders to my listeners in this is the first mention other today arm so on Valentine's Day what is it that particularly single man need to know well at a review are about to face my five tips for Valentine's Day the most important it's a little late now but the most important as planned ahead and to whatever extent you can convey the year plan something tonight before tonight comes in you say but he wanna do tonight I that way anybody listening now can start planning women really appreciate special occasions women appreciate some planning ahead women appreciate little tokens %uh love doesn't have to be expensive it can be a flower does have to be dozen roses a flower is it is it not true dat that men appreciate those things too we generally speaking a men don't care that much about Valentine's Day getting proud I don't care that much more Valentine's Day but if he always goes out of her way to my wife you know to to do something even something very small for me I hype like like what RPL I'm I it could be well usually a would-be sane something in error or saying hey let's go out tonight I mean there've been times when in doubt that that that would be perfectly wonderful men like many locked up to it often yeah my expertise is a there's a shift their focus and typically what women say the man if the woman is like wow what a great idea all Wow hadn't thought of that or let's do this fun thing together man really love that here and but the fact that a woman planned ahead something to surprise you is nice but it's not like men come the counting saying he never does anything for me a its there's a subtlety here which is now the Harmonia women's bodies *** seat I'll send men have it but we don't run out of it women run out of it very quickly and it regulates stress levels in women and its ox ito's send and to understand this is like amazing because if you give a woman a little hard you get a big does a boxy totality giver 24 roses she gets a surge in box ito's Indian giver one rose and it's a search box right this is the harm on that the at the woman's body produces at the time childbirth that causes the bonding instincts that clear it also causes yeah I also love as shown to regulate her stress meaning they were not because the levels are a healthy level she's happy she feels lobbying right and when they go down she feels more stress does not see toes and also go up in both men and women as a consequence *** yes it's the release I you have to have a certain amount of oxy tell CNN or the climax and men typically have no problem climaxing there is a small percent amended do have that issue and they don't have enough articles in the most most men do have plenty of it yeah but women can easily run out a bit stressed the place women have it and you know that's what the crucial you know dot com study you know the place for study but it's interesting what they found is that a high percentage I've women preferred men who were tech-savvy and this is kind of a shift as opposed to guys who are athletes and go out to the gym it at a choice they like the guys tech savvy and people there why it because the number one stress for women today is they feel like there's not enough time and it is think if a computer is running slow then they're just more frustrated and you know because Chris you asked me to do this you know they they provide menorah memories for computer so I actually put a new memory and my computer my wife watched it and like the hero the universe now began so much faster shape though an expensive it so easy to do so we've gone from going out to the caving club in the be no dinner to a to working out the German demonstrating physical prowess that would be associated with the ability to bring dinner to now having and the intellectual capacity to make dinner or an offense give her the time she needs I mean this is it's amazing how how do you how do you respond to some uses that's a pretty sexist grouper stereotypes well I'm dealing with that since I wrote men are from Mars since 1992 and I think you know you can be intellectual about that but the reality is is these are very common experiences that people have eighty percent of the time they tend to ring true 10 percent are are not heterosexual generally speaking and 10 percent women tend to have much higher testosterone levels and they relate a lot to the mail experience and there's ten per centum and they tend to have low testosterone levels and they tend to relate more to estrogen dominant activities so years same biology is destiny and a certain level here at a certain level yeah I mean you can adjust biology for example of a man is out of work and and start feeling depressed because you know I'm not making a living how my can get by his testosterone levels will dramatically dropped his estrogen level the female hormone would dramatically increased but the problem is he will be moody he'll be charitable he'll be easily angered are he'll be passive so when men start having dominant female hormone they actually much more stress so i've seen studies that indicate open it men in work on many workplace positions where they feel that they are be in Christ whether it's by a man or a woman I am you know where they're they're significant power dynamics with their the the underdog your essay right I attended the just us or leather strop yeah and on the other hand when men for example the one study s always done around elections when men win elections their testosterone levels spike yeah its testosterone is linked to feeling successful that you make a difference and testosterone in men is the number one regulator as stress the idea the win win on Valentine's Day is for a man to know a few simple things that you do for example and then a woman delights in that so he ends up feeling successful that he complex something for her she appreciated the lights Senate and she ends up bonding more with him because he's done something for her so if I do something for you my testosterone goes up if you do something for me my oxy toting goes up talking 02 more like what you receive can testosterone likelier successful at pass pass a doctor john gray relationship expert author America Mars Women are from Venus is website mars business dot com and survey link is posted over Tom Harkin dot com and crucial dot com did the study the doctor various picking up doctored a great thanks so much for being with us again palm thank you so much I listen to your show all the time you're going to have a Tom Hartman praying mantis I call 866 987 thoo sorry about that guy who steps on a solid thank you for your kind words John Gray iPad and Happy Valentines thank you thank god