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Q: There seem to be an inordinate number of questions that were sent in relating to people
being in relationships with people that they believe they love, but something’s changing.
They’re not sure.
How do you know when it’s time to leave?
TOBIAS: When you ask a question, truly.
(laughter)
LINDA: Not my question.
TOBIAS: When the question comes up – and it’s not just a mental question anymore,
but it’s truly a question of your heart – “When you say is it time to leave?”
you’re asking yourself that because it probably is time to leave.
The real question is “How do I untangle this relationship?
How do I do it in the greatest love and honoring?
How do I keep from making myself suffer or the other person?”
The real question is “How do I handle the details?
How do I handle the children?
The possessions?”
You’ve already made a decision in a way.
Now you have to make the movements into untangling it.
Relationships were never intended to be eternal.
Relationships were never intended to even have to last a lifetime.
Relationships are precious.
They’re beautiful.
But it wasn’t inflicted on anybody that they should last forever.
When you get over your own karmic cycle, your old relationships based in karma end.
It’s time to let them go.
When you let them go, you meet them again on the path but without the encumbrances of
the old karma.
If you keep dragging them along, it’s going to take the joy out of your life and the one
whom you are having a relationship with.
Let it go.
